I’m back after a break - literally. I broke my wrist in early September and had trouble typing well. The bone’s healed but I also tore a tendons or two and they’re not healed yet so the process continues. When the break happened I decided to take time away and concentrate on meditation and spiritual practice. I thought I was over-focused on ideas and the challenges in the world.
I certainly agree that men and women have gifts for each other. I have a problem, though, with the "needing each other" part. And I think it is this part that causes some of the polarization of which you speak.
I'd like us to get past "need," to "want." How wonderful it would be to be wanted for who I am, and for me to want him in my life in the same way..
In my mother's generation, men and women did "need"" each other. They had particular roles, but, at least in part because of this "need," (read desperation, usually financial, on the woman's part....I won't speak to men's "needs," as I'm not a man) there was abuse, at least in my household, and it was far from rare in the world around me. She eventually did (with us kids), but it was difficult to escape without finances.
For obvious reasons, my generation does not "need" a man in the same way. Myself, I want a man to show up, in confidence of his role as partner, confidant , companion, lover, but again it breaks down. Perhaps because he is not "needed," insecurities cause drama, which I have no interest in, accept where what comes up is used as a tool for us both to grow.
I want a man... I don't need him... And I want to be wanted, not needed as his supply.
I certainly agree that men and women have gifts for each other. I have a problem, though, with the "needing each other" part. And I think it is this part that causes some of the polarization of which you speak.
I'd like us to get past "need," to "want." How wonderful it would be to be wanted for who I am, and for me to want him in my life in the same way..
In my mother's generation, men and women did "need"" each other. They had particular roles, but, at least in part because of this "need," (read desperation, usually financial, on the woman's part....I won't speak to men's "needs," as I'm not a man) there was abuse, at least in my household, and it was far from rare in the world around me. She eventually did (with us kids), but it was difficult to escape without finances.
For obvious reasons, my generation does not "need" a man in the same way. Myself, I want a man to show up, in confidence of his role as partner, confidant , companion, lover, but again it breaks down. Perhaps because he is not "needed," insecurities cause drama, which I have no interest in, accept where what comes up is used as a tool for us both to grow.
I want a man... I don't need him... And I want to be wanted, not needed as his supply.
Sounds interesting. Looking forward to your thoughts on the subjects.