Hi, Andrew! Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the world. I share a concern for what's going on with men, and women today. I briefly mentioned something in one artlcle of mine... I see masculinity in men being under attack, and masculinity in women celebrated. I also see femininity in men being celebrated (but that without the focus on masculinity does not work). And femininity in women is talked about, but it's not encouraged as much as it is in men. It's a mess leaving us confused and the result is a society that is very concerning. I used to think that to heal and move on healthily, we need women-only and men-only communities. That might be a good start. However, looking at where we are today, I believe we need communities of people who have chosen to be whole human beings no matter their gender, or what I call like-hearted people. We need to be surrounded by both women and men who support us and challenge us, an environment where we can embrace our unique differences and find our commonalities, all at the same time.
Thanks Andrew, much for me to consider here. How is this true for me? I think it is. I appreciate you for bringing this to light for me to consider. Also, a few years ago I moved to a conservative area of California (yes, they exist) and it seems to me that men here are more actively resisting the cultural condemnation. Also something for me to observe and think about. Thank you!
Andrew, what you have written here resonates with me. Peeling back all the layers so we can see things clearly seems to be the gift that just keeps giving. I feel like we need to cultivate courageous cultures and relationships. And by that I mean we need to learn how to hold people in all their strength and beauty, to encourage selfhood, rather than coddling each other. I read somewhere that we'd "we'd have to live on our knees to keep others down" ... which is a bit of a weird line, but what it gets at is what we're culturally doing to each other. When we don't stand up, nobody else can either. If one stands up, it does well that others do too and see each other eye-to-eye. We must en-courage one another, rather than pacify one another.
Andrew, thank you for this thoughtful essay… And once so important to our cultural survival and probably our physical survival and etc. I only recently became aware that the pattern I have of answering what appears to be a simple question with a fairly complex and tangential analysis of the difficult situations I face in trying to answer it— that pattern is part of my way of attempting to constantly assess what the underlying meanings of my choice might be to the person who is asking… So presumably, I could give an answer that least troubles them and/or least incriminates me.
Looking forward to hearing more about your social experiments!
Hi, Andrew! Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the world. I share a concern for what's going on with men, and women today. I briefly mentioned something in one artlcle of mine... I see masculinity in men being under attack, and masculinity in women celebrated. I also see femininity in men being celebrated (but that without the focus on masculinity does not work). And femininity in women is talked about, but it's not encouraged as much as it is in men. It's a mess leaving us confused and the result is a society that is very concerning. I used to think that to heal and move on healthily, we need women-only and men-only communities. That might be a good start. However, looking at where we are today, I believe we need communities of people who have chosen to be whole human beings no matter their gender, or what I call like-hearted people. We need to be surrounded by both women and men who support us and challenge us, an environment where we can embrace our unique differences and find our commonalities, all at the same time.
Thanks Andrew, much for me to consider here. How is this true for me? I think it is. I appreciate you for bringing this to light for me to consider. Also, a few years ago I moved to a conservative area of California (yes, they exist) and it seems to me that men here are more actively resisting the cultural condemnation. Also something for me to observe and think about. Thank you!
Andrew, what you have written here resonates with me. Peeling back all the layers so we can see things clearly seems to be the gift that just keeps giving. I feel like we need to cultivate courageous cultures and relationships. And by that I mean we need to learn how to hold people in all their strength and beauty, to encourage selfhood, rather than coddling each other. I read somewhere that we'd "we'd have to live on our knees to keep others down" ... which is a bit of a weird line, but what it gets at is what we're culturally doing to each other. When we don't stand up, nobody else can either. If one stands up, it does well that others do too and see each other eye-to-eye. We must en-courage one another, rather than pacify one another.
Andrew, thank you for this thoughtful essay… And once so important to our cultural survival and probably our physical survival and etc. I only recently became aware that the pattern I have of answering what appears to be a simple question with a fairly complex and tangential analysis of the difficult situations I face in trying to answer it— that pattern is part of my way of attempting to constantly assess what the underlying meanings of my choice might be to the person who is asking… So presumably, I could give an answer that least troubles them and/or least incriminates me.
Looking forward to hearing more about your social experiments!